Stefani Walper, 24, married a man 45 years older than her, whose son she went to school with. Stefani met Don Walper, 69, when she was working at his favourite pub in British Colombia, Canada, four years ago.
After going home together one night, the pair felt an instant connection.
They decided to date and eventually got married. When Don told Stefani about his son from a previous marriage, Stefani realised she went to school with him. Wanting their own family, the couple then decided to have their own child.
Though the couple faced some resistance from family and strangers – who mistake them for granddad and granddaughter – after they had baby Lachlan last year, Stefani’s parents and brother have accepted the relationship. Now the new mum and dad are adjusting to life with Lachlan.
‘A lot of people don’t understand that age gap relationships can be genuine,’ said Stefani. ‘Everybody seems to assume there’s got a be something else going on. ‘People insult me more than they insult Don because I am the gold digger, I am the one with daddy issues, I am the one who can’t support myself, I need a man to save me. ‘Everyone thinks I’m a gold digger. Where is the gold? Give me the gold, babe. ‘It doesn’t upset me or make me angry, I just correct them.
When it’s very obvious we are a couple or we are together in a romantic way and if you still choose to say obnoxious things, that’s when it bothers me. ‘But other than correcting them what do you do? ‘When we first started dating, Don felt a bit weird about it because sometimes when I would hold his hand or kiss him he was a little standoffish or stiff. But I don’t care, he is my boyfriend, he is my husband.’
Don and Stefani are open about how they both consider their sex lives to be the best thing about the relationship. ‘Definitely, the sex has been a great part of it from my perspective,’ said Don. ‘I have always had a younger state of mind.
I have never ever felt my age.’ ‘I always want to go out and have fun with the younger crowds and then hooking up with somebody young, you get the fresh perspective. ‘It changes when you have a child but we used to have sex literally all the time.’ Stefani added: ‘2am, 5am, middle of the afternoon, before dinner, after dinner, in the middle of dinner, on the rooftop, on the balcony, on the floor, wherever. ‘I have been with guys a little younger than me and my age and Don is obviously the oldest and he knows what he is doing. I like that it doesn’t last two seconds – he knows what he’s doing.’
The couple does have some fears about what will happen when Lachlan grows up and Don becomes too old to take care of him.
They said they take lots of pictures for memory purposes and will keep going for as long as nature allows. ‘Don and Lachlan have an amazing relationship and watching him be a father is so beautiful,’ added Stefani. ‘I take a lot of pictures and Lachlan is going to know, whether he’s five, 10, 15, or in his twenties that his dad loved him and would be proud of him and that they had all these special moments together growing up.’